What Is A Relationship Coach?

Relationship Coaching: Relationships are difficult, especially if there has been  betrayal in any form. Relationships can be defined as casually dating, going  steady, engaged or married and are inclusive of gender, race, ethnicity, sexuality  and more.

Relationships carry a lot of weight for people; therefore, they can be  very emotionally exhausting, overwhelming and all consuming. It is important for  the coach to provide a space that is safe, non-judgmental, open and respectful. It is also important that the couple can clearly and efficiently express themselves with the help of the coach.

Guiding a conversation using four steps can be helpful with clarity. The steps are fact, thoughts, feelings and future. Being clear on what is a fact, thought, feeling or goal for the future can help the conversation be more productive. It is important to clarify what an emotion is verses what a fact is, and often people can get confused by this or be too focused on emotions and how they feel.

Facts are experiences that both people can agree on and they are usually neutral. When a person is asked what they think happened in a particular situation, that is “thought,” not “fact.” This is more subjective and based off of the individual’s perception of a situation. Similarly, are feelings. How did the person feel about the interaction or experience? Feelings are also very subjective.

Lastly is a request for how the person would like to see things handled in the future. This can lead to some blaming, so early in the sessions, this step can be left out as blaming does not help the communication.